Daily stress is an unavoidable part of daily life. It’s how you manage the stress that’s most important.
The Stress Response
First, let’s think about how to relax your body.
When we’re upset – the stress response automatically kicks in (the sympathetic nervous system).
Daily stress creates wear & tear on all of us and can worsen medical illnesses. For that reason, we all need to learn to manage stress really well! We may not be able to stop stressful situations from happening … but, we can learn to manage our reaction to stress — in the moment.
The beauty of your body is that you can literally take control of your stress response (even in most stressful situations) by paying more attention to your breathing than to how stressed you feel!
The Relaxation Response
The first step is to be mindful in the moment that you’re feeling stressed! Watch a few great Mindfulness technique demonstrations here.
The next step is to learn how to reduce your stress response …. just by using a simple breathing technique.
If you breathe slowly (approximately 6.5 breathes per minute) and take a little more time on the exhale (4 seconds per inhale; 5 or 6 seconds per exhale), then you will turn on the ‘relaxation response’ (parasympathetic nervous system).
The below videos will teach and demonstrate for you exactly how to do that slow belly breathing. It takes a little practice … everyone can learn to do it in time!
How to Belly Breathe
Watch Dr. Carbonell demonstrate belly breathing
If you like apps, I recommend using the FREE Breath2Relax app … This video (which includes 4 short mini-videos) previews components of the app, which was developed by the Department of Defense.
Whenever you feel overly stressed (over a ‘5’ out of ’10’), it’s a good idea to try one of several very brief behavioral techniques to bring yourself to a calmer state. They’re called ‘grounding’ techniques because they’re simply meant to get you more in touch with feeling safe and secure – in the ‘here & now’ rather than thinking about the past or worrying about the future.
I recommend trying several, to find one that can become your go-to quick rescue. These videos explain how to use your senses to get grounded right away, how to create your own safe place, how to count your breaths, and even how to use yawning to access a calmer state.
Best of all worlds, you will practice doing one of these daily so that you will be skillful … whenever you really need to pull this ‘relaxation’ skill out of your mental health toolkit – on your demand to calm yourself.
Calming Yourself (fast) from High Stress
Yes, there’s a proven technique to manage high stress fast. Dr. Ali Mattu explains/demonstrates this in his video.
Well-Being is a Skill
Modern neuroscience teaches that we can train our brains to have more well-being; it’s a skill to learn. Watch a thought-leader in the field of neuropsychology, Dr. Davidson, talk in Part I … about the science of well-being and in Part II … the 4 constituents of well-being, including the importance of practicing mindfulness.